Every day, we are faced with decisions.
Sometimes they are easy. You simply decide and go from there. Other times, they are tough and you really have to think. Hard decisions can be stressful especially if you are like me and don’t like making decisions in the first place.
I think for the most part we know in our gut what we should do. But for some reason it’s hard do what we should.
We make life harder than it has to be.
Take 5 really deep breaths and…
Whatever decision you’re having trouble making, pray about it FIRST. Ask for wisdom as you figure out what you are going to do, and for understanding as you read his word.
You won’t hear God audibly. You must read the bible, renewing your mind, to know what he wants you to do.
Romans 12:2 (ESV)
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
2. Talk to your spouse
If they were a complete idiot, you wouldn’t have married them. Whatever it may be, i’m sure they will have input and hopefully your best interest at heart.
If you are not married and you need a second opinion, strongly consider the person you get advice from. Make sure they have succeeded in the area you need help in. (If it’s about a relationship, don’t get advice from someone who has been divorced multiple times, and/or is in an unhealthy relationship)
Go to someone who will let YOU decide but perhaps will have helpful pointers and encouragement. Not someone who tells you what you need to do.
3. Be Practical
Do what you need to do without letting emotions get in the way. Women especially need to work on this. We are emotional beings, and at times that is good, but it can hinder our decision-making.
If you have been offered a better job, don’t stay at your old job because of friends you would be leaving, or because you don’t want to hurt anyones feelings. Never be afraid to better yourself.
Maybe you are interested in someone. Think about the future as well as the present. Are they a hard worker? Are they good to you and reliable? Is the person someone who would be a good spouse and a good parent?
Don’t waste your time with some dud just to be in a relationship.
Before you get married, make sure they are CURRENTLY ready for a family and what you are looking for. You CANNOT change someone or expect them to someday grow up.
4. Make a Pro / Con list
It helps to visually see your options on paper. Look it over for a few days, but do not procrastinate. Weigh your options and think things through. Even the small details count, write them all down. It will help you be practical with your decision.
5. Think about the future
Will this decision affect your family (or future family) negatively or positively?
My future family has been a huge motivator for some decisions i’ve made. My future family has inspired me to work hard, cook, clean, be organized, save money, get my house paid off quickly, and to be healthy. Even if they are not in your life yet they can still inspire and help you.
Don’t let someone else manipulate you with anger, tears, and distraction once you have made your decision. Be strong and stand firm.
With normal everyday decisions, just be practical and go with your gut.
Get the most out of each dollar, never rely on stuff to make you happy, and read your bible.
Rely on Christ.